The holiday season is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. But for the 59.3 million Americans battling with their mental health, it can feel like the most vulnerable time of the year, with the contrast between societal cheer and personal struggles deepening feelings of loneliness and despair.
While suicide rates paradoxically dip in December (Christmas Day sees the year’s lowest suicide rates), as New Year’s Day approaches, a spike in suicidality emerges, linked to the dread of facing another year under the weight of unresolved struggles. For some, the festive period highlights the absence of meaningful connections, while others feel suffocated by the pressure to keep up joyful appearances.
For all their sparkle, the holidays can cast long shadows. So, how can we support our loved ones through these complex emotions and help them feel seen, valued, and safe?
Recognizing the Hidden Signs
Many people experiencing suicidality show warning signs, but these are frequently overlooked. Often, subtle changes in behavior signal distress: 89% experience sleep disturbances, 70% show signs of hopelessness, and 75% are noticeably irritable. More obvious warning signs include withdrawal from social activities or giving away possessions.
However, suicidality doesn’t always come with clear warnings. Many individuals may mask their struggles and smile through the pain, appearing “normal” to those around them. This is especially prevalent during the holiday season, which comes with the societal pressure to be cheerful and enjoy the festive period. Paying attention to behavior shifts, even when small, can make all the difference.
Understanding the Emotional Weight of the Holidays
For those struggling with mental health, the holidays can feel heavy. Approximately 31% of Americans experience loneliness during the festive period. As one user notes on online therapy provider 7Cups, “I find I suffer from depression particularly around Christmas due to not being close with my family.” Loneliness around Christmas is also common among the elderly, especially those spending the holidays alone, as it highlights the absence of loved ones or unmet connection.
Even those who spend Christmas surrounded by friends and family can easily feel disconnected. For example, adolescents often internalize their struggles, not wanting to disappoint others and “ruin” the holiday spirit by sharing their emotions. Tragically, keeping these negative emotions bottled up only heightens feelings of inadequacy and shame.
Others may be contemplating suicide but don’t attempt to take their lives until after the festivities end. According to clinical psychologist Martin Plöderl, “some people may postpone their planned suicide so that their families and friends can enjoy Christmas,” leaving tragedy around the corner. Rather than waiting for our loved ones to approach us, we must check in and initiate the conversation.
Approaching Difficult Conversations
Conversations about suicidality can feel daunting but talking openly about suicide does not increase risk. On the contrary, it often provides relief to those struggling in silence and is a fundamental step in supporting loved ones with their mental health challenges.
When initiating a conversation, choose a quiet moment away from holiday distractions and avoid dismissive phrases like “You just need to cheer up” or “Think of all the good things in your life.” Instead, validate emotions with statements such as “I’m here for you” or “It’s okay to feel this way.” Adolescents may struggle to open-up, so use gentle, open-ended questions and show patience. Even small gestures, like checking in via text, can be effective.
Accessing Effective Help
Supporting someone in crisis doesn’t have to mean carrying the entire weight alone. While emotional support is invaluable, professional care is often the turning point. Suicidality is rarely sudden; it’s often a long-term struggle needing consistent care. Vita Health offers a clinically validated telehealth service that meets this need, reducing suicide attempts by 60% and deaths by 80%.
Vita’s telehealth services ensure year-round accessibility, including holidays, providing structured care for those in need. Knowing professional care is available also offers peace of mind for friends and family, allowing everyone to enjoy the holidays more.
Top Tips for Supporting Loved Ones
If you’re looking for practical ways to help a loved one, here are some strategies to consider:
- Educate yourself. Learn to recognize warning signs and respond effectively.
- Check in regularly. Let them know you’re there, even if they’re not ready to talk.
- Validate their feelings. Acknowledge their pain without trying to “fix” it.
- Stay patient. Understand that healing takes time and setbacks are part of the process.
- Encourage professional help. Offer options or even accompany them to appointments.
The holidays are a complex time. While joyful for some, they’re a painful reminder of vulnerability for others. By recognizing the emotional weight of this time of year and offering a lifeline, we can make a real difference. But you don’t have to do it alone. If someone you care about is struggling, don’t wait. Get in touch with Vita Health today.
